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What creates a healthy relationship

Use your important other to treat each other well. You don't understand if that's the case? Take a step away from the gloomy sensation of being swept off your feet and think about where your connection has these seven characteristics.

  1. MUTUAL RESPECT ~: does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is "YES" but only because you're acting like someone you're not). The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are, for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV , etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understand and would never challenge the other person's boundaries.
  2. TRUST ~: you're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by, does he completely loss his cool or keep walking because he knows you'll never cheat on him. It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes. Jealous is natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.
  3. HONESTY ~: this one goes hand in hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your girlfriend in a major lie? Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night but it turned out that she was at the movies with her friends. The next time she says she has to work, you will have a lot more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky ground.
  4. SUPPORT ~: it's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right and VICE VERSA.  In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents at getting divorced and to celebrate with you when you get the lead in a play. 
  5. FAIRNESS / EQUALITY ~: you need to have give and take in your relationship too. Do you take turn choosing which new movie to see?  As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even ofcourse.  But you will know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle , with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.
  6. SEPARATE IDENTITIES ~: in a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you are losing out being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives, Families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something  you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward. 
  7. GOOD COMMUNICATION ~: you have probably heard lots of stuffs about how men and women don't seem to speak the same language. We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "NO," " NOTHING'S WRONG" can have, depending on who's saying it. But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means  and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place.  Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid isn't what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give some space to do that if you ask for it.

When you feel secure in your relationship you stop worrying about impressing the other person. As you get to know each other better, you relax and stop being on your best behavior every time you're together. It doesn't seems as important to be solicitous of the other person because you're not trying to captivate each other anymore, you're already together. 
       Eccentricities and personality quirks also emerge and you learn that not everything your partner does is cute or funny. Some of it might even be incredibly annoying. You fall into a routine. If you eventually decide to live together or get married, there are even most factors to consider, such as differences in Finance, possession or house keeping styles. 

While not all relationship are meant to last, it is possibly avoid some of the common pitfalls that can throw any relationship off track and cause unhappiness. 

Being happy in a relationship can take some work, but if you're in it for long haul, the result are well wort it.

The majority of us find happiness in our relationship with other.

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